Not being able to speak English in the hospital will definitely ruin your life

lolmythesis:

Public Health, Brown University

onsexandgender:




Why do men abuse women? What’s in it for them?
This list was generated by participants in a court-mandated batterers-intervention program in Minnesota. The facilitator asked the men what benefits they received from abusing their wives and girlfriends; the answers —unabashed and chilling— filled a 4 x 8 whiteboard:

She’s scared and won’t go out and spend money
She won’t argue
Feeling superior: she’s accountable to me
(I) get the money
Total control in decision-making
She feels less worthy, so defers to my needs and wants
(I get) a robot babysitter, maid, sex, food
Isolate her so her friends can’t confront me
She works for me
Convince her she’s nuts
Convince her she’s unattractive
Convince her she’s to blame
Get to write history
Kids on my side against her
She won’t call police

From a 1/30/14 webinar, “The Benefits of Violence: Why Give it Up?”  by Chuck Derry, of the Gender Violence Institute, sponsored by the Battered Women’s Justice Project.

onsexandgender:

Why do men abuse women? What’s in it for them?

This list was generated by participants in a court-mandated batterers-intervention program in Minnesota. The facilitator asked the men what benefits they received from abusing their wives and girlfriends; the answers —unabashed and chilling— filled a 4 x 8 whiteboard:

  • She’s scared and won’t go out and spend money
  • She won’t argue
  • Feeling superior: she’s accountable to me
  • (I) get the money
  • Total control in decision-making
  • She feels less worthy, so defers to my needs and wants
  • (I get) a robot babysitter, maid, sex, food
  • Isolate her so her friends can’t confront me
  • She works for me
  • Convince her she’s nuts
  • Convince her she’s unattractive
  • Convince her she’s to blame
  • Get to write history
  • Kids on my side against her
  • She won’t call police

From a 1/30/14 webinar, “The Benefits of Violence: Why Give it Up?”  by Chuck Derry, of the Gender Violence Institute, sponsored by the Battered Women’s Justice Project.

If you were a computer-loving male child who took a lot of shit from your peers, I suspect you heard something similar from the adults in your life. Maybe it was ‘Sure, things are bad now, but when you’re a little bit older, women will LOVE guys like you!’ Or maybe it was ‘That kid who makes fun of you now will be working at a gas station when you run a big fancy computer company and marry a supermodel!’ If you were once young, nerdy and male, it is not unlikely that your future sense of self-worth was funded with a non-consensual IOU from the world’s women. It’s taken me a long time, but at this point I genuinely believe that much of this ‘GEEKS SHALL INHERIT THE EARTH’ rhetoric is little more than patriarchy’s bespectacled wingman. It excuses the pain that systems of power exert on children by promising little boys future dominion over little girls. It is deeply and massively fucked.
come off anon

QMoC we can be misogynists too

mariavontraphouse:

thats not confined to heterosexuals. often many of us think that.

you wrong

we perpetuate the same culture that says when are less than

being queer doesnt stop that.

a lot of us are Transphobic as well

how you manage that fuckery is beyond me

how do you say ” dont judge me for who I am” then turn around and throw T**** around like the shit is cute

get it the fuck together

(Source: kemeticballbuster, via eb-n-flo)

lessthanfour:

I’ve procrastinated for the last three hours but I give no fucks.

you look rull cute, even if it is 230am :P

lessthanfour:

I’ve procrastinated for the last three hours but I give no fucks.

you look rull cute, even if it is 230am :P

pleonasticfantastic:

🔥🍺I’m excited for 5/7 Sharon to look like a packa hoodlums in these🍺🔥#burnitdown #seniorweek

pleonasticfantastic:

🔥🍺I’m excited for 5/7 Sharon to look like a packa hoodlums in these🍺🔥#burnitdown #seniorweek

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